- 8 Telltale Signs He Is Going to Propose You
- 1. Developing a sudden interest in jewelry
- 2. Budgeting
- 3. Getting closer to friends and family
- 4. Choosing to be with you more and more
- 5. Using the term ‘we’ often
- 6. Engaging in future talk
- 7. Keeping secrets
- 8. Acting Peculiar
- Don’t rush things
- 15 Guaranteed Signs He’s Never Going to Marry You
- 1. He won’t give you a straight answer
- 2. He gets angry when you try to talk about it
- 3. He won’t be “official”
- 4. He doesn’t “believe in marriage”
- 5. He keeps you at a distance from his family and close friends
- 6. He still doesn’t know…
- 7. He shuts you out
- 8. He can’t do conflict
- 9. He doesn’t really care about your future plans
- 11. You feel desperate and pathetic
- 12. He has a pretty bleak view of marriage
- 13. He downplays your relationship to others
- 14. He proposed…but won’t set a date
- 15. You just know he’s not the guy for you
- The 15 Biggest Signs He’s Never Going to Marry You:
8 Telltale Signs He Is Going to Propose You
“Will you marry me?” Three words that a woman wants to hear from her partner. When you have been dating the perfect guy for a long time, you start looking for signs. Signs he is going to propose soon; you start obsessing over it. Every small thing seems an indication of a proposal.
Not sure if the moment is really near? Check out these telltale signs he is going to propose to know if your special moment is near.
1. Developing a sudden interest in jewelry
They need your finger size; they can’t get a perfect ring without your finger size. So, he will start showing interest in your jewelry all of a sudden.
Moreover, he will start picking your brain about what type of jewelry you .
Rings are big investments; he doesn’t want to mess it up, so he will keep at it till he gets all the information he can.
When a man starts to watch his funds, he is up to something. Engagement rings are once in a lifetime item; they are expensive; you need a bucket load of cash to get them.
Once he knows what you , he will save up to get the perfect ring for you.
3. Getting closer to friends and family
Once your partner has his heart set on proposing, he will make efforts to get close to your friends, family, and people you love.
If you have been dating for a long time, he must know your family and friends, but when it gets close to proposing, you will see him making more efforts to blend in the family.
This is a very big giveaway that he is close to proposing.
4. Choosing to be with you more and more
When you have been with your man for a long time, you are aware of his routine. If that starts to change, something’s up. When a man wants to really settle down, he will start to spend more time around his desired partner, choosing her over his buddies.
5. Using the term ‘we’ often
When you start to hear “we” in routine conversation, you can expect to hear wedding bells soon. His plans will be more about you and him both, than him alone with his buddies.
This is a pretty small change, and if you aren’t looking for signs, you won’t realize this. If you are obsessing about the proposal, start paying attention to his pronouns. “We” instead of “I” is a sure sign of he is going to propose soon.
6. Engaging in future talk
When you first started to date your man, you must have talked about kids. If he keeps bringing it up again and tries to get your opinions on how many or how soon you want kids, he’s thinking about marriage for sure.
Talking more about the future and the family he wants to have with you are big signs that he wants to settle down with you.
The only time a man talks children is when he is prepared to marry and start a life.
7. Keeping secrets
When two people share space, it is hard to conceal things from each other. If you start noticing him locking his drawers suddenly, don’t be suspicious, be excited.
If he has asked you to keep away from his things, then he sure is up to something; something a ring box and proposal plan, maybe.
8. Acting Peculiar
There is a big chance that he is taking help, either from family or from friends. When it comes to proposals, guys don’t do it alone. They need help. So be vigilant; if he is about to propose, the family knows.
If your family is becoming secretive and peculiar, then they are probably helping him with his proposal plans. All knowing, secretive smiles, and the air of excitement is a big giveaway. Don’t go prodding for information, or you will ruin your own surprise proposal.
Don’t rush things
If he is the right guy, sooner or later you will get married. The important part till then is not to rush things and not to put pressure on your partner. Let things unfold on their own. Getting married is a huge step; he will need to weigh all the pros and cons before thinking about a proposal, so respect that.
Even when you are sure you are seeing indications that are on this list of signs he is going to propose, do not jump to conclusions. Give him time; once he sees the perfect partner in you, he won’t think twice before proposing. Till then, be calm, patient and the loving, caring person you are.
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15 Guaranteed Signs He’s Never Going to Marry You
When you’re dating someone, eventually you’ll have to ask: is this relationship just for now, or is it forever?
Marriage is a big deal, it is the ultimate commitment, and not everyone wants to get married. If you want to get married, it can be devastating to learn that the man you love doesn’t want the same thing. Maybe he never wants to get married period, or maybe he just doesn’t want to marry you.
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No one wants to waste their time on a dead end. No one wants to spend years upon years with someone who just isn’t–and maybe was never– on the same page. There are certain things you can look for, certain signs that will tell you whether the outcome you want is in the cards, but you have to actually look…and a lot of people don’t.
Sometimes it’s easier to just turn a blind eye to avoid having to face a truth that you really don’t want to accept…that maybe the man you love doesn’t want to marry you.
To help you gain perspective and see more clearly, here are 15 definitive signs that he is never going to marry you.
1. He won’t give you a straight answer
He changes the subject whenever marriage comes up. And if he does address it, he only talks about it in a jokey, snarky way. You really have no idea where he stands at all, which is a huge red flag in a relationship.
Common responses you get when you try to talk about it are: He needs more time … He needs things in the relationship to change … he needs things in his life to change … Why are you bringing this up now? ….Can we talk about this another time? …Everything is so great, why do you need to wreck it? …I’m stressed at work, I can’t talk about this right now, etc. etc.
2. He gets angry when you try to talk about it
When the topic of marriage or commitment comes up, he gets angry, defensive, and uncomfortable.
At the root of it, he probably feels incredibly guilty.
He knows–consciously or sub-consciously–that he doesn’t want to marry you, but he also doesn’t want you to leave, so he resents it when you put him in a position where he has to admit he can’t give you what you want. He wishes you would just leave the topic alone so he doesn’t have to deal with it and this comes across as anger and frustration.
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3. He won’t be “official”
Forget marriage, if he won’t even commit to giving you a label and being your official boyfriend (or if you had to badger him into finally calling you his girlfriend), then he definitely doesn’t see you as his lifelong partner.
When you bring it up, he might say something along the lines of he s things how they are, he doesn’t labels, why change things?
These are just empty excuses. When a guy says he doesn’t want to be in an official relationship, he means he doesn’t want to be in an official relationship with you…he’s just enjoying your company in the meantime.
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4. He doesn’t “believe in marriage”
He claims marriage is just a piece of paper… it doesn’t really mean anything… no good can come of it. Guys don’t speak in code; when he says something, believe it and don’t read into it. If he says he doesn’t believe in marriage, believe him!
Do not make the mistake of seeing this as some sort of challenge. Don’t make it your mission in life to turn him into a believer.
Take it for exactly what it is. If you want to get married, and he doesn’t…then you either need to learn to be OK with that or you need to move on to someone who wants what you want.
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5. He keeps you at a distance from his family and close friends
If you haven’t met his friends and family, that’s a huge red flag. If you have met his friends and family, but you don’t really know them, it’s a little less of a red flag but still a flag nonetheless.
If he doesn’t really bring you in…he doesn’t really invite you to family functions, doesn’t really include you when he’s hanging out with his close friends, he doesn’t really care if you them or they you, then it means he’s not really all that invested in you.
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6. He still doesn’t know…
You’ve been together for many years, maybe you live together, you know each other in and out…. but he says he just “doesn’t know.” What this really means is he knows… he just doesn’t know how to tell you.
Guys usually know early on when they’ve met the one. Ask any married man when he knew his wife was “the one” and the answer will most ly be very early, well before the six-months-together mark.
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7. He shuts you out
He won’t talk about problems with you. He withdraws and shuts you out. It almost seems he’s about to break up with you. He doesn’t let you in and you don’t have a clue about his emotional world.
When a man lets a woman in, he’s investing in her. Men don’t readily strip off their masks and show their true colors to the world. They reserve this for a select and very special few. When a man lets you in, really in, he is deeply invested in you. When he builds walls, he’s trying to keep you out.
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8. He can’t do conflict
Part of being in a healthy relationship entails being able to handle conflict. This won’t always be perfect, sometimes it will be messier than others, but both partners are on the same team. They are both trying to reach a resolution and they work together to get there.
They don’t go into combat enemies. Essentially, it’s the two of them against the problem, not the two of them against each other. The conflict is a means to find a resolution, not an opportunity to tear each other down.
If he completely shuts down when an issue arises, or he deflects the blame onto you and maybe threatens to break up with you, it’s a big sign he’s not ready to get married.
Marriage is a life-long partnership. Sometimes these partners don’t agree and that is where the strength of your relationship will come into question. If he won’t talk about it, won’t work on it, and shuts you out, then you can’t have much of a partnership. Instead, you’ll spend your life walking on eggshells for fear of rocking the boat.
Conflict can often strengthen a couple. It can be a means for breakthroughs and deeper understanding. In the case of a guy who doesn’t want to marry you, he could be avoiding conflicts about the status of the relationship because he knows deep down he doesn’t want to marry you. At the same time, he doesn’t want to lose you… so he avoids. He avoids conflict and he avoids talking about it.
This often isn’t conscious and it isn’t malicious. He may reason that he just needs more time to figure things out and so he pushes the discussion off so he doesn’t have to deal with it right now.
Either way, when a guy won’t or can’t work with you when issues arise, it’s a big sign he’s not ready for marriage, or maybe just that he doesn’t want to marry you.
9. He doesn’t really care about your future plans
You mention you might want to go to grad school and he doesn’t really care … or that you want to live in another country for a while … or have other goals for the future. He doesn’t care because he knows he won’t be affected by these things because you aren’t someone he sees as a long-term partner
He also doesn’t talk to you about his future plans, or if he does, they don’t really seem to include you.
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As soon as he gets that promotion … as soon as the busy season is over … as soon as he gets settled in his new house .. .as soon as he can afford a really nice ring … as soon as he feels really financially table … as soon as you guys stop fighting so much … as soon as the sky turns green.
It doesn’t matter how many of these “as soon as” he achieves, there will always be a new excuse. He’s just buying time with all these excuses about waiting for the “right time” which will come at no time.
11. You feel desperate and pathetic
How do you feel in this relationship? Be honest. If you feel needy, insecure, and desperate, then it’s a big sign you’re in a lopsided relationship, one where you are significantly more invested.
You should never have to beg and plead for a commitment. When it’s the right guy, he will eagerly and happily commit himself to you. He will do whatever it takes.
If you feel you spend most of your time in the relationship convincing him to marry you… or trying to prove to him what a great wife you would be… it’s a sign that he is on a totally different page, a page that doesn’t include you or an aisle.
12. He has a pretty bleak view of marriage
He genuinely feels bad for married people, he thinks their lives are boring, dull, and bleak. When a friend of his gets engaged, he feels pity, not joy.
He sees marriage as life in prison with the possibility of parole (i.e. divorce), but that comes at a risk of half your income and he would just rather not.
13. He downplays your relationship to others
When people ask about the relationship he downplays it and says it isn’t that serious. He doesn’t really seem all that proud to be your man. When a man is truly in love, he wants to show off his lady. He is proud to be her man, he feels the luckiest guy in the world and he wants to show off his good fortune to anyone and everyone.
Another element of this is that his friends and family (if he has introduced you to them) don’t treat you you’re someone special to him, you’re just another girl.
When a guy has found “the one” it’s just obvious and his friends and family all know it…and it comes across in the way they treat his girl.
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14. He proposed…but won’t set a date
Maybe he finally caved and he popped the question … but he still clearly doesn’t want to get married.
Why would he do something that? Maybe he wants to be sure and thinks if he makes a big move it will get him there. Or maybe he’s just buying more time, literally.
But then he has to face the music. He might stall, refuse to set a wedding date, basically through roadblocks at every station making wedding planning impossible
If you’ve been engaged for a few months and he still hasn’t set a date, and there isn’t a legitimately good reason why, odds are he never will.
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15. You just know he’s not the guy for you
Sometimes you can get so caught up in trying to get him to choose you that you forget to ask yourself if he’s even right for you. You know the truth deep down, it’s just not always easy or pleasant to admit it.
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There you have it. Signs he’s never going to marry you. I know this can be depressing to read, especially if more than a few of these ring true, but it’s better to know now.
Don’t cheat yourself having what you want. Don’t stay with someone who clearly can’t give you what you want just because you’re afraid to go out there and start again from scratch.
It’s much better to be alone than with someone who isn’t right for you.
If you feel confused by all this, you’re not alone. Most women don’t realize what inspires a man to commit… what makes him see a woman as “the one” instead of a “good enough for now” option. If you want to know exactly what makes a man want to commit and what makes a woman stand out from all the rest, read this next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
The 15 Biggest Signs He’s Never Going to Marry You:
- He won’t give you a straight answer
- He gets angry when you try to talk about it
- He won’t be “official”
- He doesn’t “believe in marriage”
- He keeps you at a distance from his family and close friends
- He still doesn’t know…
- He shuts you out
- He can’t do conflict
- He doesn’t really care about your future plans
- He’ll propose to you as soon as…
- You feel desperate and pathetic
- He has a pretty bleak view of marriage
- He downplays your relationship to others
- He proposed…but won’t set a date
- You just know he’s not the guy for you